Media today, has fostered a lot of unrealistic expectations surrounding everything concerning the act of sex. So much so, sex is not a smooth affair all the time. For many indulging in sex, there are reasons for them to consult a sex therapist.

Sex therapy helps individuals resort to therapy to resolve problems that disturb their sex lives. Ranging from a simple disinterest in sex to erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, there is a wide range of problems that people hope to solve by seeking sex therapy.

Sex therapy is talk therapy that is designed in a manner to help individuals overcome emotional as well as physical challenges so that they can have a pleasurable and satisfying sex life.

Facing issues in their sex lives is common for both men and women. It is estimated that over 30 percent of men and 40 percent of women face sexual issues during their lifetimes.

It is important to understand the fact emotional and physical intimacy is a requirement for both men and women for their natural and biological well-being. Sexual dysfunction can disrupt this well-being.

If you suffer from any sexual challenge that is disturbing your life, resorting to sex therapy can help reframe your sexual life and increase your satisfaction.

Do You Need Sex Therapy or Psychosexual Counselling?

If the quality of your life and emotional well-being is affected negatively because of sexual dysfunction, it is a good idea to meet a sex therapist. You can also meet a sex therapist if you have difficulty communicating your sexual needs to your partner clearly or if there is a lack of intimacy that is causing serious concern.

You can opt for psychosexual counselling regardless of your gender, sexual orientation, relationship status, or religious or cultural background.

Working with a psychosexual therapist involves exploring, identifying, and evaluating the various physical, emotional, psychological, and environmental causes that were/are present in your life that is contributing to your current sexual issues.

However, it is important to understand that sexual problems are common and one of the best ways to deal with these issues is through talking. Psychosexual counsellors are trained to offer you non-judgmental support and talk therapy that will help to resolve sexual issues that you face.

Sex Issues for Which You can Approach a Sex Therapist

Some of the common sexual dysfunctions that people face are:

• Erectile dysfunction
• Loss of libido
• Excessive libido
• Lack of interest in sex
• Lack of response to sexual stimulus
• Premature ejaculation
• Inability to reach orgasm
• Low confidence
• Inability to control sexual behaviour
• Unwanted sexual fetishes
• Distressing sexual thoughts
• Addiction to pornography
• Vaginismus
• Dyspareunia and Vulvodynia
• Delayed Ejaculation

These are only some of the issues that you may be facing. This list is not exhaustive.

Sex therapy may be recommended when there is personal conflict because of issues related to sexuality (sexual assault/trauma), conflict about the relationship (sexual boredom), compulsive sexual behaviour, couple’s marital sexual problems (physical, emotional infidelity issues), personal coping difficulties that are related to sexuality (Disclosing STD to partner), etc.

How Does Sex Therapy Help Relationships

• Enhances sexual communication
• Enhances both sensuality and sexuality through exercises that are designed to eliminate sexual boredom
• Enhance understanding each other’s sexual wants, needs, and desires
• Enhances fantasy exploration to make sex life more interesting

Sex Therapy at Softmind

At Softmind, our vetted qualified and trained sex therapists at Trivandrum treat your condition by talking through your thoughts, feelings, experiences, and worries. They also familiarise you with coping mechanisms which will further help to improve your response to your sex problems to make your sex life healthier.

During the appointments, the psychosexual therapist may talk only with you or together with your partner depending on the problem and requirements. In case the problem is deeply emotional or psychological, the therapist will work with you so that you can better manage your concerns about sex in the future.

The therapy sessions at our counselling centers in Cochin are intended to be both educative and supportive. The therapy is directed to provide comfort for the participants. This is because it is not easy for the participants to bring up intimate details about their sex life. When our therapists work with the emotional issues affecting your sex life, the physical symptoms will also improve.

In case of physical issues such as vulvodynia or impotence occurring due to medical conditions/treatments, our best psychologists in Kannur will refer you to an appropriate medical practitioner who will work in tandem with the sex therapist.

Sex therapy can thus help both individuals and couples find out a way to have open and honest communication which make it easy for them to work through any concerns or challenges in their sex life.