In earlier times there wasn’t much emphasis placed on doing parenting the right way. People didn’t even consider parenting style choices when it came to raising their children. It was quite simple for them – children had to listen to their parents, and if they didn’t, they had to be disciplined, which was mostly through a form of corporal punishment. But we have come a long way since then. Psychology and research into this field has shown us how we can guide our children on to the right path with positive discipline and loving guidance.
To be a modern parent means acquiring yourself with modern parenting skills like authoritative parenting, which is not to be confused with authoritarian parenting. In authoritative parenting, you are more acquainted with a child’s day to day needs and responsibilities. And instead of punishing their bad behaviour, we creatively try to influence them to adopt more positive behaviour. This can be done by approaching your children with love and kindness; and also by having empathy in your heart. This means trying to look at events and thoughts from their point of view as well before reacting to it. Such an approach will contribute immensely towards improving your relationship with your child and also develop their overall happiness and mental health.
As a parent you should never shy away from offering your children responsibilities and chores to do around the house appropriate to their age. It has been proved that such children learn consideration and responsibility early in life. Thus, you are helping and enabling them to face the realities of life from a young age itself.
When children are forced to follow a set of arbitrary rules, and failing which they are punished, it can then have an immense impact on their young minds and social well-being.
No one is born a parent, we become one eventually, and it can never be accomplished alone. Parents are not always prepared to be parents. They will need support and they will need to learn new things every day. You will never master the skills required to be a decent parent because you the individual and your child are growing up and becoming new people every day. However, you should always provide a safe and engaging environment at home where your child can grow up, make mistakes, learn, and become the healthy social adults that they are meant to become.
And along with taking care of your child, you the parent shouldn’t forget to take care of yourself in the midst of all this. Parenting is a stressful, never ending job. And when you give importance to and uphold well-being, self-care and self-esteem in your life, then you will be able to pass these qualities to your children as well.