You have probably heard that first impressions matter. But in the case of children, not only the first but also the second and the third and the fourth and so on, matter. If you are not a celebrity, chances are that the only people who will mimic you in your lifetime will be your children.
Your children, even if you haven’t noticed this, are constantly watching you, and even when they aren’t, they are listening to you and learning everything from you. And what they learn and how they learn impacts them and their future behaviour.
If you want your kid to show respect, you need to act respectfully towards the world first.
Whatever change you want to see in your child, make sure you demonstrate it first in your interactions with them and the people around you.
Remember. Children are products of the environment they grow up in. Provide good choices.
While your child’s favourite game on mobile, console or PC might be the rage around the world and is what all the ‘cool’ kids are playing, there’s another game out there that they are missing out on. And did you know? This game is absolutely easy to play! And moreover, it doesn’t cost anything!
Playing house isn’t a new game at all. It is what generations before used to do during playtime to engage their little imaginative minds. When you get your hands and knees dirty and build houses and castles in the sand, and stir imaginative tasty dishes in a pot over an equally imaginative fire, then something magical happens. You are not simply killing time or finding a cure for boredom but also improving your child’s imagination and creativity and helping them prepare for life ahead.
So what are you waiting for? Help your child play house today. Or wait around till your 30 something child makes a social media post about ‘adulting’ after they have finished cleaning their dishes for the first time!
Here’s a little superstition that I’m sure most of you have grown up with. Touching on wood or knocking on your own head or doing umpteen things to castigate yourself for feeling too much happiness or being too happy!
I’ve never quite understood that to be honest. What’s wrong with being happy? Further along, what’s wrong with being too happy? Being happy is the precursor to all other good emotions in life. It is from where goodness, kindness, affection, love and respect get a chance to grow.
And for a child, most of his happiness will stem from the early friendships they will make. Making new friends and maintaining a healthy relationship with their new friends will help your child grow. Letting you child interact with their friend at a social setting provides them with a chance to develop skills necessary to interact with the whole world much later. It not only provides them with important social skills but also aids in the development of their emotional intelligence and thinking powers.
Google and Alexa can wait. Encourage your children to ask you the questions instead. No matter how seemingly stupid, silly, or embarrassing they may seem to them. Encourage them to ask questions. Period. And when they do, put aside whatever you are doing at that moment and listen to them. And I mean, really listen to what they have to say and not just hear the sound of the words coming out of their mouth. When you do this, your child will become comfortable in approaching you and this will especially help later on in their lives.
You are never too late to start or make this change. Stop being passive viewers in your child’s development; instead become an active and avid participant.
A child’s mental and emotional development depends on the environment they grow up in. Circling back to the earlier point that children mimic and model their behaviour and thinking pattern based on what they see around the house. It is crucial to realize that, how you treat your spouse and how they treat you back influence your child more that you would like to believe.
A child brought up in a happy, conducive and safe marital environment will go on to recreate such secure adult relationships later on in their lives. While those brought up in an emotionally abusive environment may end up becoming abusers themselves in their adult lives.